my neice wants to give up her baby to us for adoption?
Tuesday, December 1st, 2009 at
10:31 am
do we need to draw up adoption papers with an a attorney / agency or can we draw up papers on our own legally?
…"You need to do it legally to protect yourself and the child. (BRING ON THE BOO HISS)"
Well, yeah, "boo, hiss." What about the rights of the woman bringing this child into the world? Is she allowed legal protection to keep her child with her? Is her child allowed legal protection from being separated from his/her mother? Just think about it from an ethical point of view. Do what is right to keep this family together – do everything you can to make sure that mother and child are together. Then – maybe if it does fall apart – you can at least sleep at night, for a few years, until your niece realizes that she could have been a good mom all along.
Don’t know what your situation is, but if you love your niece, you would help her parent and see how much she will lose if she doesn’t. Adoption loss effects generations of people, not just the 3 or 4 individuals immediately involved.
Good luck to your niece: hearing her flesh and blood child call her mommy; sharing her love for her child with her child as her child’s rightful mother – not as some fake "aunty".
A lot of this is up to you and how much support you give to keeping family together.
I’ll tell you what, I absolutely hate the people responsible for separating my son and myself and that includes some of my closest relatives.
You need to use an attorney to make sure everything is done legally. You don’t have to go through an adoption agency.
Get an attorney and file through the court system. You don’t want to have any issues later down the road.
You need an attorney, but not an adoption agency.
You can’t "DIY" an adoption. It’s too complicated.
You need an attorney and, if you want to be ethical about it, you need to provide your niece with counseling to be certain that adoption is the bst decision for her and her baby. In fact, counseling for the mother is required in some US states.
You need to do it legally to protect yourself and the child. (BRING ON THE BOO HISS) in foster care I have seen many relatives who took the children and then three years later, mom changed her mind…the kid was totally uprooted and it caused the child a lot of problems.
Happens all the time, and in these cases, the parents were unfit to begin with, but the court had no choice as there was no paper trail or record.
First, be very sure this is what your niece wants and why. If it is proceed with an attorney.
You should definitely use an attorney for the adoption process if not only to receive advice. I found this site that has more info and provides a free consultation.
http://therobinowitzlawfirm.com/PracticeAreas/Adoption.html
Have your niece to speak with an attorney that specializes in family law/adoption or adoption agency in your area. Adoption is forever, but you need to make certain all avenues are covered legally. I would never recommend anyone to try to draw up adoption papers on their own. There’s way too much at stake including the future of an innocent baby.
Good luck to you and your niece. God bless.
attorney, you dont want anyone to come back on you later.you can give over power of attorney to who ever you want thru division of family services.its good for a year.
wow do u think the baby will know who her real mom is?
You will need an attorney of course and the court will be involved. Usually the court will ask that DCF do a home study on your home also.