Does anyone know of a good adoption attorney to fight to get my son back?
Wednesday, July 22nd, 2009 at
8:58 pm
I placed him under the pressure of my family when I was 9 months pregnant and at my mothers funeral, I have been spiraling downward ever since, to read the bigger order prescription drugs online picture see my other posts. Any information on a good adoption attorney for birth mothers would be greatly appreciated.
please don’t belittle yourself by taking on the term "birthmother". you are his mother. not a vessel.
i’m gonna go read back on your other posts. feel free to email me if you ever want to talk. i have a wonderful natural mother friend that i could hook you up with via email.
you need to get your child back.
Where are you located? Perhaps start calling lawyers in the phone book to see if they offer a free consult. You may get a feel for them after you have met and talked with them.
http://originsusa.memberlodge.org/
I read ur other post earlier, im glad u have decided 2 fight 4 ur son,u are doing the right thing i wish u goodluck and hope u live a happy life together with ur daughters and son. Dont let ur family pressure u out of it this time, its ur decision only, and the adoptive parents would be able 2 get another baby and maybe u would be able 2 send them photos and let them see ur son time 2 time as they have spent 6months in his life, they may be able 2 help u out with ur son is ur family wont.
bizzi91 i cant believe ur advice how can u tell someone not 2 fight for their own child, and their is nothing she can do, if the law says 6months and it has not been 6months yet then thats the law so how can nothing be done, the court looks at the best intrest of the child, jwhich i believe is being with their biological parents providing they can provide for their child then i see no reason why the court would think its better the child being brought up by adopted parents when the birth mother wants 2 keep the child. if i was in this situation i would do everything in my power to get my child back, even spending every last penny i had, i could never put a price on my children. I just ope u dont ave children urself because if u do i feel really sorry for them.
I am sorry, their is no way. They bought the child it’s theirs.. there is no reversing it. You can try but you will waste every last cent you have trying.
And that is what they want. Your money and your children. You are worth nuthing to them… your just a baby incubator to them.. who you are your pain does not make them money or meet adoption quotas…
I am so sorry…
Don’t use the courts that have taken enough from you to fatten their pockets….
Out of over 600 cases I have been threw not one of them got their child back… lawyers know what is going on in the system so do the judges.. they are one of the key problems of the system…. they make money off other peoples misery.. how they have the word honorable in front of their names is beyond me. In my eyes and many others they are no better then kidnappers, murders and rapists.. only they and their peers think they are good people. (And the stupid) Who ever said crime doesn’t pay was obviously not a lawyer or a judge.
there usually is a time limit…like an appeal process. But I would think that time has expired by now. You have asked pretty much this same question a few months ago and got many good answers…why haven’t you checked into this by now? There are lots of lawyers that will give a free consultation and they could tell you if you have a chance in this.
You need to go to OriginsUSA. They have a list of attorneys on their website.
http://www.adoptioncrossroads.org has some good attorneys nationwide that will advocate for your child and you staying together.
I know your hurting from this, but seriously do you really want to disrupt your child now?? He’s bonded with a family and they are probably giving him a good home … to pull him from that will have consquences for him … I know you did this under duress … but please put your feelings aside and think of his … he’s formed bonds, trust, emotional attachments, you could end up shattering this for him …. you need a good counsleor for yourself to let this go. I’m not trying to be hurtful, I am thinking for your child … read up on what these kids go through first and talk to a counselor on your emotions.
Be a part of your child’s life but don’t take them away from a family that is theirs now…you are not. I don’t know how long your son has been with the other family but it is not fair to that child or his REAL parents. If you want to reunite with him, you should try to have open communication with his parents. Hopefully, they won’t shut you out so that when he is old enough to understand he can make the choice to include you in his life or not.
If you only have until February 1, you need to go to the state the adoption took place and simply tell them you want your son back. But you have to do it by tomorrow. After that it’ll be too late unfortunately. There’s nothing the adoptive parents can say or do, they can’t even sue you for money they lost, that’s the risk of adopting. PLEASE, make every effort to get to that state and get him back. There’s no trials or any court dates, just simply tell them you changed your mind and that’s it. He’ll be back with you. I know from experience.
Since tomorrow is your last day to challenge this, get a lawyer using the resources the people here recommended.
However, once you have done that, you need to take a minute and think. You asked these questions 3 months ago. Why haven’t you done something yet? Consider the idea that, on some level, you *don’t* feel like you can raise him. I know it must feel terrible, but you are not a bad person–not a bad mother–if you don’t think you can take care of him. You also have your girls to think about and you are allowed to say or feel that the only way to be a good mother to them, you cannot also take care of him.
There is almost always a reason why we procrastinate. Do whatever you can, whatever you need to, to give yourself more time so you can get him back…but please, please, please, figure out WHY you waited this long.
Where do you live? I know one good one in Illinois that may be able to help. Act now, do not delay.
Please don’t go and uproot this child from the parents he now knows and loves. My birth Mom had always wanted to do this to me, find me and get me back, but that would have been disasterous. I’ve met her now and we love each other completely but to take this child out from under what he knows as love now would really be a mistake and only newsworthy for NBC Dateline.